Don’t expect perfection – work out what is vital and a deal breaker for you, all other things are negotiable

Remember: looks are not the person – looks change with age and care, often when someone is really happy and content they become more beautiful anyway – being treated as beautiful and special will often make someone take better care of themselves and hence enhance their looks. You can change how a person looks to you by treating them with respect and changing your expectations of beauty. Don’t pass up someone wonderful, to whom you are attracted on some level, who would emotionally give you all you need, just because you have allowed yourself to be brainwashed by the media’s portrayal of physical beauty.

View soulmate love in a similar way to mother love which is unconditional love – your mother will love you even if you choose to leave home, even if you choose to love somebody else, even if you choose to not follow her path – this is how you should love and be loved by a soulmate.

You have to be yourself, you have to behave and do the things that seem authentic and natural to you. You are only needy and desperate when you are with the wrong person, because if you were with the right person you would be in sync about contacting each other and talking to each other and saying the significant things to each other.

If you are unhappy within yourself it is unlikely you will be able to attract someone who will change that. Look at yourself with an impartial eye. Change what can be changed if you think that will make a difference. Otherwise learn to accept and embrace what you cannot change, and know that the right person for you will accept you as you are.

Wait for the universe to act – open your eyes up to signs. Listen for songs you hear all the time, songs that ring through your mind, books that you see all the time or are recommended to you, courses that seem relevant – what words or themes are you hearing all the time? What messages do you feel you are getting from the songs etc?

Remember: If you do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten – so try something new to refresh your experience and grow and learn – this will also make you more interesting and give you unique and interesting things to talk about. Everybody wants to be with someone interesting and full of life. Just remember, when you do meet him or her don’t appear too busy to fit them in! Nobody wants to feel like a burden, sure, you may have things on every night of the week, but is that how you want to spend the rest of your life? Alone and filling in time? Or did you set your life up like that so that you wouldn’t be sitting at home alone until ‘they’ arrive in your life? So, when you meet someone potential please make sure you make yourself available. . .

Trust what your partner tells you, if they tell you that you are not the person for them believe it even if you think differently, know that you are not going to change their mind only they can do that – maybe they are exactly the right person for you and the timing is just wrong, maybe they need to grow up or experience other people before they can see that you are the right person for them, or maybe you are desperately trying to make something fit which isn’t right. In all cases trust what they are saying to you, express your truth to them – feel confident enough to say to them I think you are wrong and we are right together – but know that you cannot force them to change their minds, so express your truth then sit back and wait for the universe to act. Your potential partner has all the information they need and if they still choose to not be with you then you need to accept it, trying to force them to change their minds will only result in a needy desperate relationship where you are constantly trying to show them how perfect you are for them, how perfect you are together, instead of being yourself and resonating with each other and moving forward in life. Sometimes the timing just isn’t right and you have to move on.

Journal your affirmations, manifestations, hopes and fears. Don’t dwell on your fears, acknowledge them and let them go. Don’t obsess on your hopes. Positively paint your vision of your hopes with feeling and happiness, then let it go. If you think of it again think of it as a very happy experience you are looking forward to and are happy is coming into your life now. This expectation and gratitude helps the universe to move quickly, it also helps the time passing until you find him/her to be happy hopeful time where you are filled with joy and anticipation. Joy and anticipation helps time feel like it is passing faster and also makes you a more attractive person, which in turn draws happy interesting people into your life.

Consider this, the body is an electrical system which means it vibrates with energy. Consider how you feel when you are angry, sad, happy or joyous, or when somebody around you is angry, sad, happy or excited. You can feel the energy vibrating from the emotions – so it would seem that others should be able to feel your energy. If your emotions are hopelessness, sadness or anger at being alone or the defeated attitude of someone who has ‘lost’ over and over again, then happy interesting people are not going to be drawn to you. The people who may be able to lift your spirit will not be drawn to you because they will sense that you may drop their happiness energy. Feel the hope, feel the anticipation and watch how many happy gentle fun people are drawn to your presence. The right partner will then have a chance to be drawn to you, instead of someone who thrives on the sadness you radiate – someone who will feed off you and enhance you sadness.